Feeling Overwhelmed?

by Josh

Feeling Overwhelmed? by Walt Stoneburner via Flickr

Me too.

My apologies for the gap in my posting. I usually pump out 2-3 articles for you every week, but the last week and a half has been an exception.

My Excuse

It’s been one of those times when doing dual-duty as a Senior Systems Engineer and a Project Manager hit me all at once. Being responsible for 4 separate systems with their own requirements, interfaces, stakeholders, etc. can sometimes be pretty darn taxing, even with all the effort I’ve put in over the years getting better at being efficient and effective as possible.

It just happens sometimes.

Commitments with family and friends have also been elevated in the past 2-3 weeks.  Something had to give, I hope you can forgive me!

And I bet you can relate too.  Sometimes everything just seems to hit you all at once.  When it rains, it pours.

But now I’ve got my 3 sons all put to bed and have a bit of time to spend with you and reflect for myself on how crazy life can get sometimes.

Don’t Beat Yourself Up

At times like this, it’s important to not stress out about all the things you wanted to do and didn’t.

Instead, look forward.

I have been re-evaluating the systems I have in place to ensure I’m being as effective as possible.

I’m trying out some new things, and I’ll see how they pan out in the next few weeks.

Move Forward, Never Quit

A key lesson to share with you is this: treat these overwhelming times as opportunities for reflection and improvement.  Without the challenges in life, we would never be pushed to get even better.

Life is a grand experiment if you let it be. There is no need to dwell on the past when things didn’t turn out the way you wanted them too. In order to succeed, you must fail again and again. And that’s OK.

Perhaps you didn’t work on your career goals as much lately as you planned. Perhaps you didn’t study as much for school or the PMP Exam as you would have liked.

Figure out why, and determine if it was in your control. Sometimes, it’s not in your control. Sometimes, life happens.

Often however you will find the opposite if you are being truthful with yourself. There are things you could have done better. Items within your control. When you find those, smile.

When you find them, you have increased your ‘locus of control’. This is the sphere in your life where you have the ability to make a direct impact on the outcome. The more challenges you face — and the more you find those areas where you could have done better — the more you expand your locus of control.

And expanding your influence on your own life is awesome.

Every time.

 

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Andy Stitt September 23, 2011 at 6:16 am

Yessir, I know the feeling of being overwhelmed right now. Since I am dealing with multiple scholarships and Congress prep right now, there are literally at least 100 people that all want something from me right now. It’s part of the job, and I have gotten better at managing it over the years and there are still areas where I can improve. I think it’s a combination of life happens and I could’ve done certain things differently.

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Josh September 23, 2011 at 10:10 am

Thanks Andy, and hang in there! It happens to all of us.

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Darron Passlow September 25, 2011 at 2:51 am

Josh
I am a recent registrant on your blog. I enjoyed your intro emails and particularly the sharing of your career path.
I have been managing projects (and people) for a significant number of years now with no formal PM training. I have several degrees in Science and Engineering, with the expectation (after these) that I would know all about PM. Not the case. It takes a life time!
I currently have a young team of enthusiasts working with me (in a team) on projects. Along with others, I have 3 people running projects (each looking after $2-3M). I am team leader (and mentor).
I was looking to your site and your links to see what “words of wisdom” I could share with my team (over time) that would help them be better people and better managers.
I particularly like your approach to employment – do not get complacent and think your current job is the best or only job you will ever have – study, test yourself, do your best and do “interviews” regularly.
I take a similar approach but view it slightly differently – from day 1 in a job, I am looking to see how I can replace myself.
This could be to move up the feeding chain, but these days it is more to “keep me on the ball” for whatever events might occur.
Just one thought which I think is very important for leadership (and project management);
A leader (project manager) needs “courage” (along with all the others things people mention).
Regards and thanks for inviting me into your world.
Darron Passlow – a management aspirant from “Down Under”.

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Josh September 25, 2011 at 7:33 pm

Thanks so much for the kind words Darron, I appreciate it!

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Mike Clayton September 25, 2011 at 4:45 am

Josh
I know exactly what a sense of overwhelm was like and it first hit me full force when I took over leadership of my first large scale project, in 1997. It was then that I first started systematically researching personal time management. Your key message – to not beat yourself up but to start to use the experience as a launch-pad is spot on.

Your readers may be interested in a newsletter that I did early this year called Overcome Overwhelm, which has a seven step process. They can read it from my website: http://mikeclayton.co.uk/resources/thoughtscape-newsletters/

Stay in control
Mike

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Josh September 25, 2011 at 7:34 pm

Thanks Mike!

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